A divorce attorney will tell you that the first thing you should do when contemplating a divorce is to consult with an attorney. Of course they would, it’s their job and they feel like it’s really important. OK, maybe sometimes it even is really important. However, if your divorce is unconsented, civilian and relatively simple, then there really is no reason you can’t just do it yourself.
If you and your soon-to-be-ex share a business, a bunch of small children, complicated stocks and bonds, or one of you is in the military, then DIY divorce won’t be an option for you. But for the majority of people, a marriage simple doesn’t work out and we don’t have a whole heck of a lot of complex finances. If the divorce is uncontested (meaning both parties agree the marriage is over) then filing for divorce is simple paperwork in most states.
First things first, make sure you’re doing the right thing. Is it really over? Divorce is emotionally draining and heavy on the pocket book and credit scores, you don’t want to go through it just to get remarried again to the same person six months later after you realize you’ve made a huge mistake! Once you’re sure, research the divorce laws in your specific state. You might be mandated to spend a certain amount of time separated or other rules may apply.
Your journey in paperwork usually starts at the county clerk’s office where you will file for divorce. There are several steps to filing for divorce but none are terribly complicated. If get nervous, you can always hire a lawyer or paralegal to simply look over your legal documents and agreements. This will give you peace of mind without being as taxing on your wallet.
You can find help in various places while filing for divorce. You can process your divorce using an online service or kit that makes getting divorces as easy as filing your taxes online. You could also opt to work with a mediator service, which is a third party whose goal is to make sure all parties are represented fairly. No matter which option you choose, they are all much cheaper than paying a divorce attorney to handle your affairs.