You made a commitment and by golly you fully intended to stick to it, but life is long and hard and sometimes things just don’t work out the way you expected them to. After years of trying to work things out there may come a time when it’s best to realize that enough is enough, but when is that time exactly?
You’re a victim of abuse
If you are being abused then there is no use trying to work it out, get help and get out of there double quick. Verbal abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse and physical abuse are all equally damaging and grounds for immediate termination.
Your spouse is a serial cheater
If your honey cheats on you and you have a heart way bigger than mine, you might, with the right amount of therapy, be able to forgive them and lead a long happy life together. If that spouse cheats on you again, well you have much larger problem on your hands. A failure to commit represents an inability to fulfill the basic premise of marriage, time to cut your losses and move on.
Every word leads to an argument
Constant turmoil can lead anyone to the brink of insanity and if even after counseling and giving it the good old college try you still can’t seem to be in the same room together for ten minutes without world war three breaking out, then it might be time to separate.
You want very different things
It might be hard to stay married if one of you wants children and the other does not, it’s a very emotional decision and one not to be made lightly in either direction. Careers and relocation can also tear a couple apart who otherwise would have never seen it coming.
You are simply no longer in love
Just as two people can fall instantly in love, it can happen that over time two people can grow apart. Being “trapped” in a loveless marriage can lead to serious depression and if countless attempts to rekindle the romance do not pan out, then divorce may be an option.
If you’ve found yourself in any of these situations and are thinking of divorce, the first thing you should do is have a conversation with your spouse. If the two of you are unwilling to invest any more time in saving the marriage then consider your options for divorce. You can consult with an attorney or if you have a simple straight forward divorce with minimal assets and you are not in the military you might consider a DIY divorce to save money. One of you will have to file for divorce to get the ball rolling which can usually be done at the county clerk’s office.